Destiny

Recently I heard on an Audio listening, the person speaking was quoting someone. The person quoted mentioned that I believe in GOD as I see him controlling me. I make a plan to do something, but then I am unable to achieve it, but something else happens. This shows there is someone who has power over all my affairs. That is soo True. We plan so many things, we think, I will do this, than I will do that and this way I will reach there. I believe in Planning. But then still there is the Factor called Destiny. We plan in our limits based on what we see. But then our Destiny takes over and places us in a different position, that is good for us. And it being part of our Faith to believe in Destiny, we are satisfied with what comes down our way. Alhamdulillaah, Islam is such a complete religion, it covers everything that you need to Live a Happy life.

I think I have blogged earlier about it: Everyone was shocked when I left my job with a company that stamped my H1B and wanted to send me to USA, and I told them No I want to work in MUMBAI itself. And the second company did my B1B2 so that I travel for couple of months on projects, I was Ok with this idea. My tickets were booked. We were waiting for approval from the upper Management when we got the news that they had decided to close down the Mumbai office, since they had a bigger office in hyderabad. See, How I who was about to go to USA on a project, left the company and got an offer and came to Kuwait in weeks. That was my Destiny and Alhamdulillaah, I am so happy for what I got. Lucky that I did not get into that Cycle of H1-Green Card-Citizenship. by the time you get it these days you are 40 years old spent all your youth away from your loved ones, just working hard, thinking every day if you will have a job the next week or not. Worrying about how will recession affect, how much higher is the cost of living going to be. I mean we all deserve some peace of mind also. We are humans only. Last week I was speaking to my friend who is in the USA now for couple of years, we realised that the amount of Savings was almost the same. To me that is the reason why I left my Home country, to make and save some money. So I was teasing him, how lucky we are that we can reach back home in 3 hours on the cheapest of tickets and How they cannot think of coming to India atleast for 2 years because of the short 2 week vacation they get and the cost of Tickets.

Wallaahi Niyamah to be close to home. I am loving it. I mean if you can get to see your Mom often, to me it is a Niyamah. I feel so bad for my brother who loves all of us so much and we love him so much but we dont get to see him often, maybe once in 2 years on a 2 week vacation. I wish he moves down to the middle-east or India so that we can see him often! Yaa Rabb!

Any ways everyone has their personal choices and have their own Destiny. I know my friends who tell me everytime I speak to them, come back to India you can do great here also. But at this moment I like to be in Kuwait and visit my Mom and family often atleast once a year. Kuwait - I am Loving It!!!

The way you look at it! Orca Vs. Seal

One of my friends at work sent me this Video Link without any comments. I want you to see this video and then note what comes to your mind from it before reading what is below it.

I watched the whole video and replied saying, "What I learnt from it is that You should have a Strategy to achieve a goal and then a team that believes in that strategy and acts according to it to reach the goal". Now you know whats wrong with me. Maybe u just enjoyed the video, or just admired it or just took it casual. I have been recently reading stuff about Management, hearing from some Strategy Guru's about what a good Strategy should be what are its goals. What is Competitive Advantage. To be honest, I am enjoying it. I am trying to understand what goes on in the minds of leadership, what are they interested in, what is Important to them and how ignorant are the common men working on the floor in the organization about these stuff and how much powerful would be an organization which can get its people to believe in the Mission and Act on the Values and Behaviors set by the Leadership.

I wish I can work in this area full time. Maybe one day! So since I am going through this kind of stuff when I saw the video I related it to what was going on in my mind. And my friend replied with a Sad face, I like the Seal. I mean I never thought about the whole video that way at all. She was sad for the fate of the Seal. And I was impressed with the Intelligence and team work of the Orca. Anyways, she has to be sad, women have to be sentimental else this world would be a crazy place if even women were like Men. I told her that is good, thats how a girl is supposed to be, Emotional, Keep it Up!!!

So any girl who saw this video and did not feel sorry for the seal. I think u ladies need to go back to a girls school and learn how to be more Feminine. Your work environment has made you soo much like Man. Stop being just like a Man! The charm is when a Woman acts like one. Not when she acts like a Man!

Being Thankful

Today was an Off thanks to Kuwait in lieu of the Night of Ascension this Monday. Woke up late around 11:45, I had invited a friend to stay with me since my family is back in India. As we woke up we thought should we make some breakfast or eat out. Then we thought lets have some Aloo Paratha in an Authentic Pakistani restaurant. We knew we were late for breakfast in the restaurant but then thought Yalla. lets give it a try. Yalla.

Unfortunately we got no breakfast there, as we entered my friend met one of his ex-colleagues. He has been in Q8 for 31 years and working only as a Helper in a prominent company. 31 years in a single company. Gets to see his family only for a month every 1.5-2 years for a month. Yaani, he has been with his family on an average for only 24 months means 2 years of his with his family while he spent the rest working for them... And we complain we dont get enough vacation, shame on us. Reminds me of the Hadith which means Look at those who are below you not who are Above you. I try to think of the vacations I take and he has taken in his life. How thankful We should be to Almighty Allaah. And as my friend narrates he is not educated so he has been the same post of Helper for all these years. Hard work for 31 years, his age is 52 now. Means he must have come here at the age of 21 years. Well he was not fortunate to get education, so he worked so hard and made soo many sacrifices to give his family a good life.

He was mentioning his son would go into final year of secondary school and he gets good percentages in school around 85% . Mashaa allaah, he was mentioning he would like him to study and become an Engineer as he is getting good grades in school. He said I will work here for next 8 years until I retire at 60, so that my son can become something. May Allaah help him. We discussed and I adviced him to do Diploma than Degree if he is sure he wants to do Engineering. Explained the benefits of it, over Doing Higher Secondary and than Engineering Degree directly. He asked which field of engineering was better I mentioned Computers, Electronice& Telecom and Chemical. So we just had a casual discussion over a breakfast and we had met for the first time. he liked it so much, he was soo thankful while leaving. But I felt soo sorry. Yaani, there are poor people around the world facing Hardships and trying to educate their children to give them and a good life.

Now looking at this picture. We keep complaining, I need this, I need that, I dont have this, I dont have that. Wallaahi, I dont think I have any right to complain, I think I have everything.

Playing with the Cat

I was discussing with a senior consultant we have in our group, who is responsible for Planning for the group. And we were discussing about some new products we are planning to implement for Project Management. And we were both stating that we cannot succeed unless we get all users to buy in and use the tool. So we were thinking of the risks and issues tht could come up. Basically we were doing Project Management without a Tool... I was stating how we can improve the lives of users with all the different ideas we had already available in doing different things related to their business and make their lifes easy.

But as all Experienced and Mature people advice, he also adviced me the same thing. Awwab, you have to be Patient. We have to go slow with the users slowly slowly we make these part of their routine. He mentioned his Mom used to say "When you are trying to play with the cat, like run around to catch her, you should also give her some freedom" Means you should not corner her, she might get scared and in return hurt you. So you should give it some space to run around... Similarly you should give your users some freedom to accept the tools and new ways of doing things patiently. If you Push it on them, they might revolt back.

A very good way to teach something. I dont think I will ever forget the lesson he taught me because of the story of "Playing with the Cat" Human mind is such, it remembers things more easily when you store it like a picture, something that relates to something you already know. From my childhood I know playing with cats and I could relate what he was mentioning and picture it. And then we he relates the story to day to day Business. It surely will help remembering it all the time....

This is why I love talking and sitting with senior experienced people, I get to learn so much from them. Much better than talking to people your age... who havent seen the world more than u.

But on the other side I have some other people who think they will implement solutions and get users to use them by force from their bosses. To be honest, I believe only 50% that their Strategy would work. Because I always believe, even if you make the best system in the world it is th ease of Use, that predicts the Success or Failure of it. So any system that increases the work of end users usually goes towards the failure route.

Thats the 1st one towards achieveing my KPI...

KPI

KPIs = Key Performance Indicators?? Well nowadays everyone has KPIs unless you are not performing to be measured enough. And u know what my weekend KPI is. I have to write 6 posts over these 3 days. So I have to think and write about some good stuff...

I have tough boss, to assign me such KPIs.... more later!!!

Thats what friends are for!

Today as I reached office and the first question I got from my friend cum Advisor cum Counsellor cum Sister was, so what are the key points you have noted down. Yaani, she had already read my blog. I could not believe it. I dont think she has my blog in RSS feeds and I had not blogged since long, so wasn't expecting any of my friends checking it out for updates.

But it was really cool, that my friends still keep a tab on me thru my blog! Gives me the boost to keep blogging knowing friends are reading it. That is why first thing i did after reaching home today was start typing in this post...

Too sleepy..... gotta catch some sleep now! More later

Random Chants

It has been long I haven't blogged. No, I haven't quit blogging yet nor am I too busy to blog. It was just always I think of blogging, I try to think of a topic to blog about, and that thought would not give me a result so I wont be able to blog anything.. So today i thought lets just go on and speak nothing and maybe I will come up with something.

I had a very interesting conversation today with a very fine Gentleman, who has recently joined our organization. He is a Gold Medalist in USA, studied in the top universities. And as i usually like talking to mature people who have much more experience than me, because I get to learn from them. He was explaining to me about different types of people and what type of people rise up in life and how we should deal with conflicts and how to be devoted to any work that we have been entrusted to do. How to deal with Change. He has worked with organizations and with the leadership of organizations helping them plan their strategy and get it to work. So I had a very interesting 10 minute conversation in which I was an active listener and trying to Grab the most of it and memorize at the same time. I am sure I have to jot them down with Pen and Paper to not forget the important points... I know you must be wondering when will i bring down the points that he explained. Unfortunately I will have to disappoint u now. Since he explained to me this as a younger brother. So I am keeping his advice to myself and not making it public. Yes I will try to encourage him to blogging, so maybe if he decides to share his thoughts with the worlds, i shall definitely let you know ;)

It Indeed was a pleasant day Alhamdulillaah!! Let me do my homework before I lose any important point from that conversation.

Salaam MUMBAI

Aapli MUMBAI = Our Bombay!!!
Born, Brought Up and Spoilt in MUMBAI and then exported to Kuwait = Me!!!
Spending time with my family, its soo much fun!! I woke up today for the Dawn prayers on my Moms voice. Prayed and then sat there on my computer while she read quran and we speak about something or the other. The doorbell rings and I say is it Pauwala(The guy who brings the fresh morning bread) and I take the bread from him. and than in some time we have our morning tea. Me have tea with Brun Pau(A special type of bread that is available only in MUMBAI) and Maska(Butter) and than I watch as the kids get ready and run to catch their school bus to go to school! My nephews were waiting down for the school bus and they came running back home because it started to Rain, so they came for their Umbrella! The same old days, everything here is soo same, the way it always has been. U can hear the sound of the hen/chicken, I remember when we were kids we used to call it the Adhan of the Hen/chicken. And as the sun will rise further, u will be able to hear more cars and see more people walking around. Every1 will be focussing to reach his destination to complete his task for the day! U can still see the peopl who live on the streets in their huts and see them try to find some cover as it rained today! They seem to be soo settled in there! It does not seeem anything is out of place for them, their kids play between the vehicles that pass by on the street. Shay Ajeeb (Strange Thing) But now many people know what I am talking about, Thanks to Slumdog Millionaire!
I hear that although this people live in streets in MUMBAI, but back home in their villages they are rich people! God knows best! As I was writing this, doorbell rang and came my niece Rukaiyya and I had to leave the computer because she's soo cute. So I spent a good one hour with her having fun and than I came back to this blog post. Its soo much fine. But I can enjoy this only when I am here on a vacation. If I will take up a job in MUMBAi, maybe I will be soo busy that I wont have the time to enjoy this small things that give me so much joy. So I am trying to make the most of my vacation this time. trying to make sure I enjoy every moment. As my friends adviced me to enjoy the time with family and not worry of Office this time. And I think I will take their advice.

Watch your thoughts

I remember when I was a kid and visited one of the Departmental stores @ Breach Candy, Mumbai, I saw a desktop display item with a quote saying:

Watch your Thoughts they become Words,

Watch your Words they become Action,

Watch your Action they become Habits,

Watch your Habits they become Character,

Watch your Character for it becomes You

I still remember those lines and reflect upon them sometimes. Whoever said that surely had a lot of Wisdom. I always try to reflect upon those lines and observe how our thoughts turn into actions and then into habits and then into character and then to yourself.

Some people think, if you are not having enemies in office, means you are not working. Probably, they thought if you are working, everyone else around is sitting there to just steal credit for their work. And then they work in a defensive mode, trying to hide things and lie up until they really end up making a lot of enemies because of their behavior. So the culprit is nothing except the initial thought that becomes part of themselves. And to them their thought is soo accurate because now they have soo many enemies. Some people might not be enemies but still be frustrated with their crazy behaviour... Soo Watch your thoughts, please!! You will surely get what you give to this world is the principle. if you are good to people they will be good to you. And if you are mean and rude, you will get the same behaviour back.

I believe if you are working, you should keep yourself busy concentrating on your work more than what others are doing. In today's times there is no one who is soo stupid, that others will be able to steal credit for your work. Your bosses are definitely much more capable and that is why they are bosses. They know exactly who is capable of what.

Watch your Thoughts, before they Destroy you!

Living in a Tamboo(Tent) in a desert

I was speaking to a close family friend who is presently in UK and a citizen now, couple of months ago and he was advising me which were good sites to stay in touch with friends. And I was like no I do not have Internet at home. He was like What??? U got no Internet at home. And he knows what an Internet addict I was while in India. So it was shocking to him, that I had no Internet at home in 2 years while in kuwait.   Neways he put it in a very funny way. 

OIC, you in Kuwait, so do u like stay in a Desert in a tent, hence No Internet available for u??

Well, I was avoiding taking Internet @ Home, because I knew then I will just stick to my Computer desk even while at home. 

Another incident, recently when I visited my brother and sister in UAE, I was at my brother's house and while sitting on his new PC, I asked you dont have internet. And he did not answer positive immediately and his wife was like Yes Yes, there is Dial up. And my sister and brother were like you should not tell him you have Internet. Now he will not get up from the PC. He is addicted to it. i was like am I that addicted and my sister was like we remember paying 5000 INR telephone bills because of your use of Internet !!! Eeks

And finally I got Internet @ Home in Kuwait now ;) So maybe I will be more often Blogging or seen on messengers!!!

First Kuwaiti Wedding

I started drafting this post as soon as I came  from my friends wedding. He is a Kuwaiti Mashaa Allaah! And it was my first Kuwaiti wedding that I attended. I was invited to one before of another very good friend which I still regret missing. I had done my homework well to learn the process, what I need to be doing there. I was very excited and looking forward to attend it! N I am sure I am not going to miss any Kuwaiti wedding again. Although there were people who were like you will feel odd man out there, because not many expatriates are there. etc. etc. Chidi, But I am did feel odd, i just got mingled among the guests. Maybe one reason could be because many faces were familiar since many people from our company attended.

The process:

1. At the entrance, there is a guy who applies perfume (Bukhoor), on the back of your palm

2. Then you enter and go to the place where the Groom, Groom’s father and Brides father are standing, you go and wish them say Mabrook, Kiss cheek to cheek the Kuwaiti style. (People who are not aware of Arab culture need to learn this) and move forward, probably there is a queue there.

3. You go take a seat like Deewaniya, Dates and Gaawa(Traditional Arabic coffee) are served, i dont like to call it coffee though, but dont know how to express it otherwise.

4. Than when Dinner is started, you are invited to start with Dinner. Its like buffet with all the Traditional Arabic dishes that you find in parties and this one also had Shawarma with Khubs Saaj, soo good and soooo many Deserts!!! Delicious, I should have fasted that day, had I known before.

5. Than you socialize with people you know. Meet everyone. Kiss Kuwaiti style if you know them well. One of my Ex bosses met me, said Come On, its a wedding party you have to kiss. It increases the appetite for kissing….

6. Before leaving you again go say Mabrook and leave.

7. The guy apply perfume again for you.

The experience was completely different I dont want to express my real feelings here, I enjoyed there soo much!!!

Kuwaiti Shabab Holoa (Youth Are good)

When I am sitting among my expatriate (Ajnabee) friends and they ever start saying things about Kuwaiti’s in a bad way. I get defensive and try to convince them that maybe the experience you had with some of them might be bad. But good and bad people are everywhere. You cannot generalize your feeling saying Kuwaitis are Arrogant (Magroor) or something like this etc. etc. They always tell me u feel so hurt as if u r one of them!

Now why shouldn’t I?? By the grace of GOD, I know some of the best amongst them and I don’t know any that I hate yet, maybe I haven’t come across the bad one yet, Thank God.

The other day, I went to the market in Fahaheel, I parked my car in the parking spot and went for some work. I come back after 15 minutes and find a nice CAMRY parked behind my car, now I cannot remove my car out. Luckily the car next to me left. But still my car was completed covered by the CAMRY so I could not remove it. There were some local Kuwaitis around, the ones who drive the Pickup’s between Fahaheel and Mangaf. I was with my wife and they felt bad that I was stuck now. As I was just standing out thinking what to do now. I could not go ahead and this car was behind me. The only way I thought was to physically lift my car and place in the next parking spot where the guy had just left than exit.
One of them asked me to sit and started giving me directions to move little further turn the wheels and then move little behind etc. We did this exercise for 5 minutes, than he realized I wasn’t doing a good job at that. He asked me to get off. Me and my wife got off and he took the driving seat, he might have taken 7 minutes moving the car front n behind, But since they are excellent drivers he finally managed to get my car out. With the cut’s that he did with my wheels. They have good judgement at driving. So without touching any of the cars, my car came out Alhamdulillaah! And not to forget, there some other genteleman in their old ages who were also trying to guide him from outside as he was moving front n back not to touch the cars around.
I was soo thankful to them. N hence I always say Kuwaiti’s are good people!!

Change in a Fat Way

There has been a long time since I blogged last. But probably I was trying to get adjusted to the new life. Married life. And maybe I was scared because I had realized my wife was reading my blogs... Didn't want her to know whats up with me ...Just kidding.

Was just being lazy. But now, I need to get active again. As one of my good friends commented to me, Awwab you have changed after marriage and I asked:
Have I changed in a Good way or a Bad way and the reply was: YOU HAVE CHANGED IN A FAT WAY!! Man I m putting on weight. Yeah but blogging might not be a great workout although it helps me throw out some of my thoughts. Maybe mental workout could help losing weight. But if it doesn't work than I have to hit the GYM!!!

Trust - Easy or Hard

Just heard this recently, something to really ponder over:
It is Easy to gain someone's TRUST
It is Easier to lose that TRUST
But It is very Hard to keep that TRUST


I think by normal human behavior we usually trust people around us as we start dealing with them and the level of Trust builds up and increases with time and Experience in dealing with a specific person, as you start knowing more about the person the level of trust in them increases or decreases. - Easy
But even the person whom you Trust a lot. If you come to know of one time that he cheated on you or did something against you Khallas. The Trust breaks, now you start being careful with this person - Easier
But once, someone starts Trusting you and they start talking to you even the secrets about their personal life that they dont share with others. Than it becomes real hard to keep this Trust. Because now you need to have some Amanah! I mean its like someone has given you some Diamond ring or rings for safekeeping. So you can get tempted to sell it off and make some good money. Or just give someone to wear it for a few days, the owner will not know. And you can get a Favor from the person to whom you lend the Diamond ring. To me if someone shows Trust in me. Every word they share with me is Amanah! And yes it is very Hard to keep this Amanah!

Ever thought about it this way??

After Arrival in Kuwait

Note: This is for Expatriates trying to get their Families on Dependent visa to Kuwait
1. Go to a typist with your Civil ID, Wife's passport and Visa
2. He will make the necessary Forms for Medical and Jawazat.
3. Go for Medical to the hospital based on your Civil ID address.
4. Collect Medical report next week.
5. Get the Civil ID No. by calling 1889988 based on the Visa No.
6. Go to the Insurance counter with the Medical Report, Civil ID copy and Visa copy, Passport
7. He will give you an Health card and a Insurance paper immediately
8. Go to Jawazat first floor(Ahmadi) with the Application, Medical Report (step 4) and Insurance paper (step 7) . Get signature from the Raees.
9. Go to the Ground floor cashier and pay 100KD if Iqamah is for 1 year, get the receipts
10. Go to the ladies on the counter, she will take the papers and passport and will stamp the Iqamah in the passport in couple of minutes.

So it is hardly an 30 minute job Alhamdulillaah in Ahmadi Jawazat. I love Kuwait. If you have the right papers and know the right things, things are Easy!

Thats it! Now you just need to fill up the Civil ID form and you shall be through.

After Visa What Next

Note: This is for Expatriates trying to get their Families on Dependent visa to Kuwait
I earlier blogged about procuring a Residence Visa for your wife, The next step is in your Home Country. The Visa needs to be endorsed by the Kuwait Embassy Mumbai or Delhi. If you do it in Mumbai they need the following:
1. You need to buy an Airline ticket (I took Kuwait Airways)
2. You need to get your Medical done from the Authorized centers
3. You need to submit a Police Clearance Certificate
You can hire an agent like Akbar Travels, to manage all this for you. You will just have to go once for getting the Medical done, thats it.

After all this the embassy stamps behind your original Visa paper as well as pastes a temporary Entry permit in your passport. And now you are ready to Fly.

Never Give Up!

Make this part of your approach to any problem, and you can convert the problem into a stepping stone to success Inshaa Allaah! I was speaking to a friend in India, this short trip and I have seen him surrounded by troubles all the time, Health, Relationships and Business but I still always find him brave and coping up with the problems Alhamdulillah. I was speaking to him and he mentioned that I have learnt "Never to Give Up" He said, whatever comes my way, I dont give up! That was an impressive reply, I was amazed and now knew the source of his energy. And noted this point in my list of things I have learnt. To add to it, a colleague emailed the below story which teaches the same lesson. Its a nice way to represent the same principle, Never Give Up:

One day a farmer's donkey fell into an abandoned well. The animal cried Piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old and the well needed to be covered up anyway; so it just wasn't worth it to him to try to retrieve the donkey.

He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They each grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well.
Realizing what was happening, the donkey at first cried and wailed horribly. Then, a few shovelfuls later, he quieted down completely.

The farmer peered down into the well, and was astounded by what he saw. With every shovelful of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up on the new layer of dirt.
As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off, to the shock and astonishment of all the neighbors.
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to not let it bury you but to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up!

Shake it off and take a step up!

Family Visa process - 4.5 hours

Note: This is for Expatriates trying to get their Families on Dependent visa to Kuwait
Lets note down the steps I went through for the Visa process for future reference:
1. In India got Marriage certificate Notarized and stamped from Home Department and Kuwait Embassy.
2. You need Marriage Affidavit from Indian Embassy (2 hours)

1. Submit Marriage Affidavit form in Duplicate
2. Passport copy of Wife
3. Photocopy of Marriage Certificate
4. Civil ID copy
5. Applicant passport copy
6. Show Original Marriage certificate(Attested by Home department in India)
7. Show Original passport

3. Attest the Affidavit of Marriage got in previous step by Ministry of External Affairs, Kuwait (Took 30 mins)

4. Get the Application filled by the office outside Jawazat(Immigration Department). I went to Ahmadi Jawazat, as I stay in that area. Documents that they took with this application were:

1. Original Affidavit of Marriage stamped by External Affairs
2. Copy of wife's passport
3. Copy of My Izne Amal (I had to show original Izne Amal)
4. Civil ID copy

She did not take my passport copy nor my Aqd Ijar (House contract) copy which I was hearing is needed now.

Thats it, I think she took 10 minutes to make the visa asked me to check the spellings, passport number etc. than put 3 KD stamp if all fine and get it signed by the Manager

Easy isn't it! Alhamdulillaah!! at 8 a.m. I was in the embassy and at 12:30 I had the visa in my hand. Than I couriered the visa to India for Medical, PCC and Endorsement by Kuwait Embassy. You can use TNT, I gave it to him at 6 in the evening and it was delivered next day before 4 pm in Mumbai.

Most precious thing to give - Time

The best thing you can ever give anyone is Time.
Because when you give someone your time, you give them part of your life.

Pondering over these lines.... Imagine if u give someone a Mercedes or a precious Diamond, U can get these material things back. Provided the person is willing to give them back ;) But imagine when you give someone your time. U sit with someone at the Beach or in the Coffee shop or in Office listening to what they are saying, or having them listen to what you are saying. We share our thoughts or our concerns or our issues and feel relieved. I mean, u dont really share anything material there is no Money going from your pocket to theirs or vice versa. But still u r giving or taking the Most precious thing. Because the time you gave or you took from the other person is gone. You cannot have it back and it is part of your life. If you are going to live for 60 years, you have already given this person some part of your life, Isn't it.

Now when I think of this in conjunction with the other post I wrote about Companions and their effect, they both together mean we should be soo careful with whom we are spending our time. Imagine u r spending your time with a jerk with whom u dont benefit at all instead maybe u learn some bad stuff from him. In this case u r giving the most precious thing u have in return for some Junk stuff. Isn't it Strange and we never think before we spend our time. We think its the least we can give anyone. But when it comes to giving something monetary to anyone we think 10 times. Strange right. Where is our Common Sense, As they say "Common sense, is soo Uncommon"

Win them or Lose them

I was speaking to a close friend after a long time. And in our discussions we went to the topic of Relationships and dealings with difficult people. We were speaking about how some people are difficult to deal with and willing to do things to Insult or Embarass you. How to deal with such people. My friend suggested a solution to deal with this in a very nice way. Whether you want to Win them back or Lose them. If you want to Win them back than you forgive and forget and accept whatever excuse they give for the differences that took place. But If you want to lose them, than you can remember every mistake they made and think how every excuse they make could be a lie. So its upto you Win them or Lose them.

I have some real Wise Friends... Isnt it!