I remember one of my cousins advising my brother when he was going abroad for the first time, more than 10 years back, i definitely was a kid than('Smart kid'- this is a debatable issue) Keep your eyes open and observe things around and try to learn from the environment. N I dont know if my brother remembers it, I remember this and hence always keep learning...
I was sitting with a friend the other day in office, I believe in when u spend a lot of time doing work, a 5-minute break talking about other things refreshes u and increases productivity. So while we were chatting we came up to a MSN Messenger issue she was facing at home. N I said show me your messenger, i will tell u what could be wrong. and I got a shocked reply. "This is work, No messengers here". N I did have messengers at my work PC. So I clarified my position, referrring back to my Invensys days, where we all @ work had Messengers and most of the times discussed issues on it instead of talking n disturbing others. (Being a smart kid, i covered my position)
But when I went back and was trying to be honest to myself. I realised that I am not using the messenger at work now for work purposes, but just for short Hi, Hello with friends, when i find time. So learnt a new lesson.
I got a new workstation today as a replacement for my PC and I resolve that I will not be installing Messenger on this one. Need to be more professional...
Thanks to my friend - Learnt a lesson.
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Thursday, January 17, 2008
Hypocrisy
I was trying to read some articles about it, trying to see what my views about Hypocrites are and are they correct and trying to learn How to deal with them.
One of the most common vices, or bad habits, is hypocrisy. Mainly, it’s a misuse of the gift of speech because language is used to conceal instead of reveal. By pretending to be what they are not, hypocrites imprison themselves. Although the doors of their cells are unlocked, they are afraid to step out and reveal their true selves. Hypocrites are liars. They practice deception. They bear false witness against themselves.
Leo Tolstoy (1828 ~ 1910) describes our reluctance to act on our hypocritical concerns for the welfare of others: "I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means — except by getting off his back." - I really loved this statement, its so true about some people you see around, they will try their level best to harm you but when they speak to you, it would be as if they are the only well-wishers you have in this world.
Some lessons on hypocrisy:
1. Let’s learn to recognize hypocrisy in others, not to condemn them, but to learn from their mistakes how we, too, may be guilty. Don't scorn hypocrites. For how can we know what fears, weaknesses, and troubles lurk in their hearts? Our job is to judge ourselves, not others. Don't sow contempt and disharmony by speaking ill of others. After all, "Hating people is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat." (Harry Emerson Fosdick, 1878 ~ 1969)
2. Once you discover your own hypocrisy, congratulate yourself, for that means you admire the virtue you pretend to have. The trouble is, you believe you cannot practice it. It's time to correct your misperception, for you are capable of far more than you realize. Just as a physical weakling can develop muscles and strength by lifting weights, all of us can develop greater moral and spiritual strength by practicing the traits we admire in others. All we have to do is stop pretending to be what we are not and start acting in the manner we pretend to be. Don't worry about being perfect; just try to be better.
3. Don't refuse to learn a valuable lesson just because the messenger is a hypocrite, for as Oscar Wilde (1856-1900) wrote, "The value of an idea has nothing whatever to do with the sincerity of the man who expresses it."
4. Even if we were free of hypocrisy, if we were to speak ill of hypocrites, we would be guilty of spreading gossip. Never speak about someone you dislike, for if you dislike them, you have a bias and cannot speak fairly. We can avoid much trouble by refusing to speak about others, unless we have something good to say about them.
Ajeeb! I guess its tough to act on these lessons...And you wont know sometimes that some people are hypocrites until they are gossiped about. There were some people who were really nice to me and trusted and told them everything but eventually I realized the same people were trying hard to spoil my good image and speaking bad about me and raising false issues.
Reference: http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/hypocrisy.htm
One of the most common vices, or bad habits, is hypocrisy. Mainly, it’s a misuse of the gift of speech because language is used to conceal instead of reveal. By pretending to be what they are not, hypocrites imprison themselves. Although the doors of their cells are unlocked, they are afraid to step out and reveal their true selves. Hypocrites are liars. They practice deception. They bear false witness against themselves.
Leo Tolstoy (1828 ~ 1910) describes our reluctance to act on our hypocritical concerns for the welfare of others: "I sit on a man's back, choking him and making him carry me, and yet assure myself and others that I am very sorry for him and wish to ease his lot by all possible means — except by getting off his back." - I really loved this statement, its so true about some people you see around, they will try their level best to harm you but when they speak to you, it would be as if they are the only well-wishers you have in this world.
Some lessons on hypocrisy:
1. Let’s learn to recognize hypocrisy in others, not to condemn them, but to learn from their mistakes how we, too, may be guilty. Don't scorn hypocrites. For how can we know what fears, weaknesses, and troubles lurk in their hearts? Our job is to judge ourselves, not others. Don't sow contempt and disharmony by speaking ill of others. After all, "Hating people is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat." (Harry Emerson Fosdick, 1878 ~ 1969)
2. Once you discover your own hypocrisy, congratulate yourself, for that means you admire the virtue you pretend to have. The trouble is, you believe you cannot practice it. It's time to correct your misperception, for you are capable of far more than you realize. Just as a physical weakling can develop muscles and strength by lifting weights, all of us can develop greater moral and spiritual strength by practicing the traits we admire in others. All we have to do is stop pretending to be what we are not and start acting in the manner we pretend to be. Don't worry about being perfect; just try to be better.
3. Don't refuse to learn a valuable lesson just because the messenger is a hypocrite, for as Oscar Wilde (1856-1900) wrote, "The value of an idea has nothing whatever to do with the sincerity of the man who expresses it."
4. Even if we were free of hypocrisy, if we were to speak ill of hypocrites, we would be guilty of spreading gossip. Never speak about someone you dislike, for if you dislike them, you have a bias and cannot speak fairly. We can avoid much trouble by refusing to speak about others, unless we have something good to say about them.
Ajeeb! I guess its tough to act on these lessons...And you wont know sometimes that some people are hypocrites until they are gossiped about. There were some people who were really nice to me and trusted and told them everything but eventually I realized the same people were trying hard to spoil my good image and speaking bad about me and raising false issues.
Reference: http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/hypocrisy.htm
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
Difference between Need and Want
Was discussing with a senior friend of mine. I always have many senior, mature friends because I get to learn a lot from the wisdom that they have from their experiences. So its good to know people who have seen the world more than u. We were discussing NBA and Basketball champs. And they were mentioning about some guy who was a very good player, what he mentioned in his interview.
It was something like this: "My family has taught me that there is a Difference between a Need and a Want" I liked that statement that I asked my friend to narrate it again and I try to add it to my collection of some wise talk. I hope I remember it when i need to consider it.
Basically there are many things we want. We want to have a lot of money, the most amazing cars, etc. etc. But do we need them? We may be able to survive with a Moderate car and good amount of money to have a decent way of life etc etc. So there is always the difference between "I need to" and "I want to" and we should try to be careful in judging things whether we need them or we just want them.
Food for thought!
It was something like this: "My family has taught me that there is a Difference between a Need and a Want" I liked that statement that I asked my friend to narrate it again and I try to add it to my collection of some wise talk. I hope I remember it when i need to consider it.
Basically there are many things we want. We want to have a lot of money, the most amazing cars, etc. etc. But do we need them? We may be able to survive with a Moderate car and good amount of money to have a decent way of life etc etc. So there is always the difference between "I need to" and "I want to" and we should try to be careful in judging things whether we need them or we just want them.
Food for thought!
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
Back Home from Home!
Is it confusing?
Think Think what is the title trying to say!! Ok lets analyze. Basically it is speaking of two homes. So I have got two homes. One is the home where my MOM is, Back in India. I was born brought up there, have my family, childhood friend so I love my Indian home.
Lets break it "Back Home" and "from Home"
Now lets deal with "from Home" refers to my home in India. Actually I went for a 2 week vacation to India to see my family. I took 6 days off and concataneted it with Eid vacation to make it 2 weeks. Went back to my family, had a great time...did a lot of shopping and came back. Met friends, had some late nite Sitaphal cream at Haji Ali Juice center, some Veg. Thali @ Shagun etc etc. Since I was home on last Eid, it was a year now...n I desperately neeeded this vacation after the rigorous mental pressures in the last 3 months post resignation. And wanted a refreshment before starting the critical new tasks that are going to start soon.
So Alhamdulillaah I am fresh and kicking ready for the new challenges.
The first part "Back Home", now this indicates I am back home. So this indicates besides India I have another home. Wow... Dont get any wrong ideas I am still Single and Looking ;) Well What I refer to Home here is kuwait and specifically my friends and workplace in Kuwait. I remember sometimes when I used to be sitting late in office, my Kuwaiti friends would say "Go Home", I would say My Home is in India, Because Home is where the family is. In Kuwait I just have a house not a Home. And I got the reply. "We are your Ahl" Ahl is arabic for Family. And that statement means a lot. And to be honest, yes I have my colleagues over here who r my Family. They take care of me like a small brother. They advice me, support me and what not. So I also have a family out here. Hence a home out here.
Hence, Back Home from Home. I am sure that was really confusing... Even I am not sure whether I conveyed what I started this post for to Convey.
Neways....About the trip soon
Think Think what is the title trying to say!! Ok lets analyze. Basically it is speaking of two homes. So I have got two homes. One is the home where my MOM is, Back in India. I was born brought up there, have my family, childhood friend so I love my Indian home.
Lets break it "Back Home" and "from Home"
Now lets deal with "from Home" refers to my home in India. Actually I went for a 2 week vacation to India to see my family. I took 6 days off and concataneted it with Eid vacation to make it 2 weeks. Went back to my family, had a great time...did a lot of shopping and came back. Met friends, had some late nite Sitaphal cream at Haji Ali Juice center, some Veg. Thali @ Shagun etc etc. Since I was home on last Eid, it was a year now...n I desperately neeeded this vacation after the rigorous mental pressures in the last 3 months post resignation. And wanted a refreshment before starting the critical new tasks that are going to start soon.
So Alhamdulillaah I am fresh and kicking ready for the new challenges.
The first part "Back Home", now this indicates I am back home. So this indicates besides India I have another home. Wow... Dont get any wrong ideas I am still Single and Looking ;) Well What I refer to Home here is kuwait and specifically my friends and workplace in Kuwait. I remember sometimes when I used to be sitting late in office, my Kuwaiti friends would say "Go Home", I would say My Home is in India, Because Home is where the family is. In Kuwait I just have a house not a Home. And I got the reply. "We are your Ahl" Ahl is arabic for Family. And that statement means a lot. And to be honest, yes I have my colleagues over here who r my Family. They take care of me like a small brother. They advice me, support me and what not. So I also have a family out here. Hence a home out here.
Hence, Back Home from Home. I am sure that was really confusing... Even I am not sure whether I conveyed what I started this post for to Convey.
Neways....About the trip soon
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